The art of the compliment

a group of little girls in pin leotards, tutus and tights and doing ballet

Why do we feel so awkward when someone says something nice to us? Lucy Corry investigates.

Most nights, Moata Tamaira gets the ultimate compliment from her eight-year-old son and she’s happy to take it.

“As a parent, you spend a lot of time reflecting on the stuff you don’t do right, so being told that you’re the best mum in the world at bedtime feels pretty good. I’m not going to tell him otherwise.”

It might seem a small thing, but accepting any kind of compliment (even from a child with a strong bias in your favour) often makes us feel uncomfortable. You’d think that getting positive feedback would be an easy win, but the reality is often different. Why do we self-sabotage in this…

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